A positive habit needs structure in order to become sustainable, which is why Fader developed an approach organized by “what,” “why,” and how.”
The “what” is all about identifying your goal and finding ways to keep it top of mind. Fader, for instance, built an acronym for his goals called GEMS, which stands for guitar, exercise, meditate, and stretch.
Just writing your goal down or finding a way to remember it increases the likelihood you'll follow through — it represents a commitment to behavioral change.
If you haven’t established a “why” behind your goal, you don’t have the fuel to move you forward. To form a habit, you have to identify an internal motivation that inspires consistency. Start with something connected with your values — your role as a parent, commitment to your passions, or long-term vision for your life.
How long does it take for a behavior to become a habit? Studies have proven it takes 66 days — a two-month plan — to canonize something and make it automatic. But how do we become consistent?
As humans, we’re more motivated by carrot versus stick — positive over negative reinforcements. So we need to find ways to inspire the behavior we want to see, which can often be done through gamifying, connecting, and protecting our habits.